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This Is Where You Belong: The Art and Science of Loving the Place You Live by Melody Warnick

The perfect book for the non-fiction lovers in your life!

I first heard about This Is Where You Belong on the Modern Mrs. Darcy podcast when the author was a guest, and it took me all of ten seconds to request the audio version from my library.

By some miracle, it came up the very. next. day, and I listened to that book every moment I could.

We’ve moved lots of times in our marriage (from Utah to Texas to Massachusetts, back to Texas, then North Carolina, Arizona, London, back to North Carolina, and now in Arizona), and this has been the most difficult move for me.

Although I generally like living here, Arizona doesn’t feel at all like home to me and I have very little place attachment so far (much less than I ever did in Texas and North Carolina).

I’ve struggled to make friends here more than I have in our previous homes. I think there are a lot of factors at play here, including the fact that I’m busier with older children and that my peers are too (less time for play dates and park outings than when I had two little children that weren’t in school).

I also feel like more people are from Arizona, so they already have a system of friends and family in place, versus Texas where our community was mainly transplants from elsewhere or in North Carolina where almost everyone I knew was there for school and thus looking for new friends.

And after so many moves, I’ll admit that I feel slightly burned out on making new friends – I just basically want to live by my old friends that I already know and have a history with, instead of suffering through the initial steps of getting acquainted and developing a friendship.

All of which is to say, this book was basically written for me.

Like me, Melody Warnick knows a lot about moving. At the opening of this book, her family has just moved to Blacksburg, Virginia, which is move #6 for them.

She’s initially not very thrilled by Blacksburg, but decides that she’s going to make the most of it. The resulting experiment as she tries different research on how to feel more place-attached is really fun, and reminded me quite a bit of The Happiness Project (only one of my all-time favorite books). Like The Happiness Project, this didn’t feel gimmicky to me – she wasn’t making big life changes for the sake of writing a book, but rather trying out different strategies to improve the life she already had.

Mixed in with her experiments is lots of research about people moving (Americans now move an average of almost 12x in their lifetime, which is WAY more than other countries), how and why people become attached to the places they live, whether it’s where they were born or a hometown they adopted by choice or by necessity, and why placemaking matters at all.

Another reason this book was particularly fun for me is that Warnick moved to Blacksburg from Austin, Texas, so I was familiar with many of the locations, events, and traditions she mentioned. Especially thrilling was when she described the annual chalk walk that takes place in town just north of Austin – that town was the one we lived in for six years and we attended multiple time (you can see a little photo of Ella participating here).

I found this book so reassuring that I wasn’t the only person who has ever moved somewhere new, and looked around after a while and thought, “What am I doing here? Do I even belong here?”

And when I was about halfway through, Bart and I sat down and had a heart-to-heart about taking advantage of the things Arizona has to offer, and that weekend we went out to a near-ish-by lake with our girls and enjoyed the rocky shore and the sunny morning.

I need to pick up a hard copy so I can reference more of her suggestions for creating attachment to your hometown for you and your family members.

And if you’re really distraught over the results of the election last night (I wrote this post before a new president was elected, so I don’t know what those results are at the moment) and you’ve been threatening to move to Canada if Donald or Hillary is elected, this might be a good book to pick up as you move to a new country.

Less dramatically, it’s also a great gift book for the non-fiction lovers in your life or anyone who has just moved to a new location.

Or just read it and think about how happy you are to live somewhere you love.

Audiobook checked out from my local library

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  • Reply Front Porch Smitten November 9, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    This post couldn't have come at a better time! I'm one month in on a new town and am now looking forward to receiving this book at my new home. Thank you!

  • Reply Paige Flamm November 9, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    I need to put this on hold at the library! Georgia has by far been our most difficult move to date… although, most issues seemed to resolve a little when we bought our house over the summer.

  • Reply Liz November 9, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    I'm so glad for this recommendation! We are coming up on living here in the midwest for 5 years and I do love it. But we are far away from both of our families and at times it is difficult. Just put it on hold at the library.

  • Reply diana November 9, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    Other than college, I've lived in the same city my whole life, and only in two houses in the last 30 years but I still really enjoyed this book! Always good to love where you live regardless!

  • Reply sydney b. November 9, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    I just order this book! We just moved to Utah over the summer and I have been struggling to make friends and feel "at home" here. This week has been especially rough for me just feeling disconnected to where I live so thank you…this was the perfect post for today!

  • Reply Feisty Harriet November 11, 2016 at 5:56 pm

    I need this book. I'm still struggling. Big time.


  • Reply Allison November 11, 2016 at 7:30 pm

    Love your openness in this post. I think all women struggle with this on and off through out their life – a lot of people more on than off. Hang in there! You're one of the best people I know at embracing your area and the people in it! You certainly made my life better here in Austin!!

  • Reply Hyacinth Marius January 12, 2017 at 10:22 am

    This book has inspired me to make some changes in my life to help me love the place I live. Melody Warnick has taken her time to include research that is intriguing and accurate. The writing is clever and enjoyable. I do not typically read a lot of nonfiction, but this book is easy to read and pulled me in.

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  • Reply Amy Petersen January 11, 2019 at 9:39 pm

    I loved this book and not just because I love the author. She and I were college roommates. Melody is smart, witty, kind and thoughtful. She pours all of this into her book making it interesting, funny and has so many fabulous ideas to look outside of our ordeal of yet another house/nehighborhood/city and decide to love all of it. So glad you recommended this book!

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