Thank you all for your concern about the doctor – I am glad we can all agree she had the bedside manner of a pinto bean (and I didn’t even mention the part where she never once acknowledged Bart in the room; she didn’t even look at him). Let me tell you, I was pretty steamed by the time we walked out of there. I am surprised my eyes are not permanently stuck looking into my skull from the eye rolling I did.

The good news is, she’s not my regular doctor. The office I go to doesn’t do ultrasounds, so they send their clients to a clinic downtown (believe me, I’ll be telling them on my next appointment how unimpressed I was by them and how several other women I know have been similarly unimpressed). I will very likely never see that woman again.

My own doctor is delightful. When I went in to hear the heartbeat a few weeks ago, I told the doctor I wanted to call Bart and let him hear it, since he couldn’t come to the appointment. She not only quickly agreed, but then held the phone for me right near the microphone so he could hear it more clearly. Afterwards, when I thanked her for letting me call him and letting him listen, she said, “Oh, it was fun for me too!”

And my midwife? I liked her instantly. She was so pleasant, so quick to answer any questions, offer advice about various genetic testing, but also not be pushy either way, and very open to different options for labor and delivery. I loved her and so did Bart.

And of COURSE the important thing is that the baby is healthy. I would rather have that than know the gender of the baby every day of the week. But once they said everything else looked good and I didn’t need to worry about it, well, then, I’d really like to know what my baby is going to be.

But, you know, not enough to pay $70 at one of those 3D ultrasound places. Because my cheapness is just one more thing that pregnancy has not changed even a little bit.

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  • Reply Lisa C February 17, 2010 at 2:41 pm

    Although, don't forget that knowing the gender of the baby tends to increase the amount of clothes you get as gifts. That could save you at least $70. Or maybe you'll just get more gear instead. That could be better…

  • Reply Packrat February 17, 2010 at 2:55 pm

    Actually, think of the money you'll save by decorating and getting items that will be usable for either a boy or girl. That way everything can be saved for the next baby.

  • Reply fluentbrittish February 17, 2010 at 3:04 pm

    Do you have a doctor AND a midwife? I've never heard of that before.

  • Reply Isabel February 17, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    Yeah, I wouldn't pay for one either.

    That surprises me that your doctor doesn't have an ultrasound machine in her office. Is this normal? My doctor has one and uses it anytime you want her to. I've always seen the heartbeats of my babies around 6/7 weeks. Hum…

    (Although I agree with the other readers that knowing the sex DOES help you NOT get all green/yellow items. Hum…)

  • Reply Carly Jane February 17, 2010 at 5:14 pm

    Well seriously, that's a relief about the dr. I also am not familiar with having both a midwife and a doctor.

    I hope in the long run you manage to find out beforehand somehow. But if not, what can you do. I'm not sure I would pay it either.

  • Reply Angella February 17, 2010 at 8:58 pm

    I'm glad you have a great doctro and midwife – it makes the whole experience that much better.

    I didn't know the sex of any of my kids before they were born (Matthew didn't want to know) and it turned out fine, planning-wise, if that makes you feel better. 🙂

  • Reply megan February 17, 2010 at 9:25 pm

    I'd pony up the 70 bucks. For sure. Come on, Carole… 🙂

  • Reply Ralphie February 17, 2010 at 10:23 pm

    Oh my. That happened to me with Queen NaNa. They could never get her to uncross her legs. Stubborn child. And I cried all the way home because I wanted to know the gender so badly! (You're so much better than me, I kind of forgot the fact that she was healthy.)
    I called them the next day and they said that they would do a quick "gender check" on the next visit. I gave her a talkin' to right before, mostly begging her to "pleeeeeease be immodest for once in your life!" and she came through.
    Stubborn child.

  • Reply emandtrev February 18, 2010 at 12:38 am

    I am so glad you love your doctor and midwife. I honestly believe it can make or break the experience (especially with a first child!) for you. It sounds like you have great care.

    One of my friends has not found out the gender–on purpose–with any of her three babies. She has loved the surprise every time. Three girls later… 🙂

  • Reply Rachel February 18, 2010 at 5:53 pm

    3D ultrasounds are so gross! I called "Chunkin' Punkin" my "alien baby" for the months following.

  • Reply Marie February 18, 2010 at 11:47 pm

    I'm glad I'm not the only one not willing to part with almost a hundred bucks just for some non-doctor to tell me the sex of my baby. I'd rather do the Drain-O test! Although, I must say, if I go to my ultrasound and they can't tell me what I'm having the suspense may be too much for me to bear!

  • Reply Corbett Family February 19, 2010 at 6:16 am

    Congratulations! I am just now catching up on my Google reader after a very busy few weeks and just saw the news. I'm guessing it is a girl for you since even when we got a pretty good look with our 4th (and only girl), Jim wasn't sure the ultrasound tech said it was for sure a girl because she kept saying she didn't get a very good look before she finally did. You can usually clearly see the boy parts and that is all we had been used to seeing!

  • Reply Melissa February 20, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    My mother-in-law used to joke about the "practice" of medicine. Many technicians lack bedside manners. Your regular doctor sounds wonderful though, allowing you to share the experience with Bart.

  • Reply Jess February 22, 2010 at 4:25 am

    I am so glad you have a doctor and a midwife that you like. And that you'll never see that pinto bean again. Ugh.

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