Circular Logic

When I was little, my dad used to tell me about how his dad (my granddad) would tell him, “You won’t know how much I love you until you have children of your own.” And then my dad would follow up with: “And you won’t know how much I love you until you have children of your own.”

My mom flew out to Boston to help us with the baby and the move about a week after Ella was born and she said my dad had said to her, after he’d seen Bart and my various posts about Ella over the past week, “Tell Janssen we were just as much as in love with her as they are with their baby.”

Now that it’s been nearly six weeks since her birth, I find myself telling Ella the same thing. “You won’t know how much I love you until you have children of your own.”

I never knew I could love a baby this much.

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  • Reply Jenny September 1, 2010 at 12:38 pm

    …and so it goes.
    It's a beautiful circle.

    PS All laid-out on that red-and-white cloth, Enna looks like a very sweet picnic. I adore her little tongue.

  • Reply lacie tidwell September 1, 2010 at 1:58 pm

    Her tongue cracks me up!!!! LOVE it!! And it's so so true!!! Isn't it crazy wonderful how instantly you are just in love with your baby? the best feeling ever!! shes a cutie pie!!!

  • Reply Lexilooo September 1, 2010 at 2:25 pm

    love this photo! she's just gorgeous!

  • Reply heidikins September 1, 2010 at 3:05 pm

    My dad has used the same logic on me, perhaps not as consistently though. ;o)

    Miss Enna is so stinkin' cute! Look at the little tongue! Ohmygaaaash, heart!


  • Reply Jess September 1, 2010 at 3:08 pm

    Eeee. Want baby NOW. Four and a half more months is TOO LONG to wait.

  • Reply amber waves of grain September 1, 2010 at 3:53 pm

    She is adorable!

  • Reply Marie September 1, 2010 at 4:11 pm

    So sweet. And it will be the same thing when you have your next baby…not trying to assume anything here. I always worried that I loved the one I had so much, how could I possibly love another just as much. Almost magical how it all works out. So glad you are having so much fun with Enna.

  • Reply jillian September 1, 2010 at 4:23 pm

    Ok, that picture officially wins the cutest picture of the day award! So adorable! And I think she looks just like you!

  • Reply TheMoncurs September 1, 2010 at 5:04 pm

    Even if you're totally a non shmoopy person, having a kid? Makes you a shmoop. You just can't help it.

    I love this.

  • Reply Tara September 1, 2010 at 5:38 pm

    She looks like you. I'm diffent from you in that I have always loved babies and been a baby person, but it is different when it is your baby.

  • Reply Bethany September 1, 2010 at 6:10 pm

    so so so sweet. it's so true, i love it. and that picture too, oh my goodness!

  • Reply Packrat September 1, 2010 at 7:50 pm

    Tears. Such a precious post and picture.

    How can some people not love or take care of their children? How can they just walk away or ignore them?

  • Reply Jennifer Lee September 1, 2010 at 8:54 pm

    I feel exactly the same way. I have thought many times, "wow, I can't believe that my parents loved me (and my siblings) this much." It's just unreal.

  • Reply Elizabeth September 2, 2010 at 12:02 am

    I really really loved this story. I never thought about it before, but it's so true. And it made me feel very loved, oddly.

  • Reply Angela Noelle of SK September 2, 2010 at 12:22 am

    Can you believe parents of second, third…and all subsequent babies feel what you're feeling again and again?! I'm looking forward to experiencing the miracle of "heart-growing-to-accommodate-more-love" first-hand someday. Mind-blowing.

  • Reply Melissa September 8, 2010 at 3:44 pm

    Love the photo!

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