Due Date
Today is my due date. And I have no baby yet.
In Boston, they are not quick to induce you; it won’t be until I’m at 41 weeks that they’ll schedule an induction and it wouldn’t be for a few more days after the 41 week mark (probably three or four days), so it seems unlikely that I’ll get to that point, since I am progressing on my own (I have no desire to get induced if I can help it, so I am very grateful that my midwife and doctor aren’t anxious to do so either).
I feel like if I say I’m okay with not having a baby yet, that I’m not feeling particularly antsy, that you won’t believe me – you’ll think I’m just trying to convince myself to not throw myself off a cliff because aiiiiieeee, no baby yet.
But really, I don’t mind. I know a due date is inexact at best. I’m not uncomfortable, so I’m not dying to get this baby out, and I have a lot of other things going on at the moment that are keeping me so busy that I will go hours without even thinking about when the baby might arrive.
I can still sleep pretty much straight through the night – I get up perhaps twice to go to the bathroom and get a drink (having the AC running in our room makes it quite dry) and I’m up total for 10 minutes. Bart and I are still walking several miles most mornings and that’s not really any more difficult than it has been. And I have loved having more time to read now that school is out.
The main thing that bothers me about not having had my baby yet is the constant stream of comments telling me to have my baby now or demanding why I’m not in labor right this minute, as if it is my own fault for being too dumb or lazy to actually produce this baby. As if I’m keeping my baby inside on purpose. THAT I will be very very happy to be done with.
It was such a relief to go in to see the midwife this morning and talk about my baby for an hour (I had a non-stress test, and some other things, so it was kind of a long appointment) and not feel even a hint of judgment for not having my baby yet.
This makes me sound like an incredibly grumpy pregnant lady, but so be it.
Maybe I'm weird, but I'm hoping my baby will be late. The longer it stays in there, the better for brain development. And going into labor naturally is much nicer than being induced by all accounts, so I hope you're right and you're able to proceed naturally over the next few days.
So excited for you!
You have now reached a point I never did with any of the four kids – the due date!
The baby IS much easier to take care of on the inside. And I'm guessing your sleep will probably take a hit once she arrives.
But once you get the hang of nursing (if you're choosing that route) you'll have lots of reading time. One of the best positives for nursing.
You are incredibly lucky that you aren't uncomfortable. The last month was the worst for me. They are much easier to take care of if they would just stay in the oven. I never reached my due date with either of my kids. The first was 4 days early and the second was 3 weeks early. You go girl!
People are so weird. When I was pregnant, my boss used to yell at me for gaining too much weight and my father-in-law for not gaining enough. Please.
How weird that people would judge you for NOT having the baby! How can you control it (without medical intervention, obvs)?
I will admit that when I checked your blog yesterday and today, I thought maybe you had gone into labor. But that's not pressure – just excitement!
One half of my brain wants to write you a poem about being lovely and pregnant and threatening everyone else to just back off on any undue comments.
The other half of my brain has absolutely no idea how to accomplish such a seemingly simple literary feat.
The baby will come when she is supposed to. Glad you are feeling good. I was always so sick the last 6 weeks.
I totally agree on NOT wanting to be induced (a concept pretty much no one in my family–one either side–understands). And hey, if you're comfortable and happy, then hurrah!
I can't believe you can still sleep through the night… I already am awake half the night (mostly just because if I have to wake up enough to go to the bathroom, I have a hard time falling back asleep).
I'm guessing mostly just people are excited for you to get to the next step. With Raymond it wasn't so much actually getting the baby, but curiosity about the whole labor and delivery thing that I was ansy about. I don't know that I'll feel that this time around!
Grow baby grow!!! (But, um, keep that head small….lol!)
I never went over (was induced early because having Graham nearly ripped me in half – I make HUGE babies). One of my best friends went WAY overdue with both of here, but she stopped answering the phone and stayed away from church and such until she had her babies – she tired of hearing all of the (stupid) comments. 🙂
You're so level-headed. I'm sure that no one's comments bother you too much, and I hope that you have a labor befitting your fabulous disposition, whenever it happens. Good luck!
I'll give you a different sort of comment then. Email me your address so I can send you your baby present!
I am surprised that people are commenting to you about "why haven't you had your baby?". But then, being pregnant and having children with you seem to make it open season on rude/inappropriate/unwanted comments from strangers (and loved ones.) Enjoy your last days of sleep and quiet and having it just be you and Bart at home. Baby will come when she is ready to come–no need to rush her.
I want to see Heidikins come up with a poem.
I cannot relate to being comfortable or happy at
Any point of pregnancy. And i think i will wait
To have another till i am in texas – the land
Of the no questions asked two week early induction 😉
Its a good thing we are both on team jacob
Or else we would have nothing in common!
Good luck ! Enjoy your grape juice right after
Delivery — its like manna from heaven
It's amazing how people feel they have a right to say anything to you concerning your pregnancy. Enjoy the time you have with baby in the womb, especially since you're not uncomfortable.
I've always thought July 16 was a good birthday, but I might be a little biased. 😉 Good luck with everything! I can't believe how strange some people can be about pregnancy — as if you can do anything about when the baby decides to be born!
I was constantly surprised, when I was pregnant, how people seem to assume that you need or want their opinion or advice. You'll have the baby when it's time and everyone else needs to back off!
Mayhap if you're desperate you could start seeking out send-me-into-labor advice. Not that any of that worked for me, but it might be a fun blog post to read while you're waiting! 😉
I think a certain amount of grumpiness is kind of par to the course in pregnancy. And if your grumpiness is defined as being grumpy about other people's grumpiness at your "failure" to order your body to go into labor, well, that's not half bad, I think.
It's all in good time; the baby is already thinking of you! So nice of baby to give you extra reading time as she snuggles in to her very warm surroundings.