A few months ago, Bart and I were talking about various milestones for our future children and I asked him what he wanted to do about our daughters getting their ears pierced.
I had my ears pierced when I was nine. I remember being aware that my Dad wasn’t very thrilled about the whole thing. His mom has never pierced her ears (she has a extensive collection of clip-on earrings) and his sisters didn’t either (although, one did when she was in her 40s and, when my mom commented on it, said that her dad still didn’t know). So, for my Dad, it seemed right not to have any piercing going on.
Fortunately for me, he couldn’t very well say “no” since my Mom had her ears pierced (and every intention of keeping them like that). So he decided that, if piercing was inevitable, he would at least use it as leverage to get us to do something he wanted us to do. He struck a deal with us – when we learned our multiplication tables up to 15 x 15 and could do two sets of 100 in less than 10 minutes and get at least 95% correct, we could get our ears pierced.
I’m the kind of kid (and adult, really) who likes a challenge. I think I learned mine in just a few weeks. (And I still know almost all of them off the top of my head). I clearly remember how excited I was to go to Claires, pick out my studs (little stars with diamonds in them). I remember carefully cleaning them every night and twisting them twice daily to keep them from getting stuck (yuck!). I was so thrilled.
When I asked Bart about what condition he might want to impose on our children, he got a strange look on his face. “I’ve never really thought about it, but I’ve just realized I’m pretty deeply opposed to letting our kids get their ears pierced.” What?
Bart’s mom doesn’t have her ears pierced (she also wears clip-on earrings occasionally) and I don’t know about his three sisters (although I’d guess they all do), so I can see why Bart is naturally disinclined.
But I love my pierced ears. I wear earrings almost every day. I loathe clip-on earrings because they hurt my ears. I don’t think one set of holes is in any way tacky or weird or gross. I can’t imagine letting them grow in – I like them too much. And Bart had never said a word about my pierced ears (although he has, on occasion, commented that he likes a particular pair of earrings).
And so, because Bart is in the same boat as my Dad, I’m sure we’ll let our girls pierce their ears. I want them to pierce their ears if they want to – it’s just a fun perk of being a girl, if you are so inclined.
Now we just have to think up an appropriate payment for the privilege.
Are your ears pierced? Do you feel strongly one way or the other? And what about your significant other?